Monday, June 7, 2010

A Husband's Point of View

Hijacked!!!

Hello loyal readers! DW is taking the night off and her blog is firmly in the hands of me! DH! So, welcome to my inaugural ‘guest post’……

It’s been almost 2 years since our TTC journey began and needless to say, it has been a difficult one. While staying positive during this journey has been daunting, we remain optimistic, and after our consultation with “Dr. Wizard”, finally feel like we’re progressing towards parenthood.

From the perspective of a DH, there is a feeling of helplessness, of being a passive participant. There are fewer tests to take, fewer people who offer insensitive advice, and no medications to take. While we’re going through this together, I see DW shouldering more of the physical and emotional burden. I wish there was something I could do, something I could say that would ease DW’s pain.

I’ve tried so hard to hide my sadness and stay positive, thinking that would be the most supportive role to take. Although, after seeing the comfort and support DW has received from this blog and the TTC forums, maybe sharing would reinforce the strength she has found from so many of her new friends. It’s inspiring to know that there are so many people out there who are “in our corner” and I am proud that DW has been a source of support to them as well.

DW and I often say, and are firm believers in the old adage, “everything happens for a reason” and over the past 2 years we have had a lot of time to discuss parenthood. When God does bless us with a child, I know that we will be all the more prepared and appreciate each and every moment that much more. This journey gives me a glimpse of the mother my beautiful wife will be; loving, selfless, and determined. For this I am truly thankful.

Thanks for reading everyone, and babe……….here’s your blog back! :)

8 comments:

Amanda said...

What a great post today!! You sound like a wonderfully supportive husband!

ElizabethMcKinnon said...

Awe!!!! So sweet... Thank you for sharing your feelings, I'll share with my DH if you don't mind. :)

Wifey said...

I love that you hijacked the blog and posted this. Don't choose to stay silent on how you feel. I've been in her shoes and went on the TTC journey for over two years before we conceived with the help of a fertility specialist. I think you just showed how sensitive you are to your wife's needs. Keep the faith, God blesses us when the time is right.

Suzie-Q T-Pie said...

how sweet! it was nice to hear the other side!

Green Sprout said...

That is just absolutely gorgeous... You guys deserve to be parents. This hijacking is one of the highlights of my week! :-D

Amanda said...

Wow, this made me cry! You are such a great guy and I'm glad Amy has your shoulder to cry on! Hugs for you both ;)

Kimberly said...

Wow! what a positive DH and Amy is super lucky, your support I'm sure means more to her that anything else.

Melodie Peachey said...

*SOB*